Dealing with Grief

There are certain events that stay with us forever.  Each of us holds the fondest of memories deep in our hearts and minds.  Moments that make us feel strong and moments that bring us to our knees.  One of my best moments was when I found out I would soon become a mother.  There is so much to celebrate and so much to prepare for.  You schedule doctor visits for prenatal care, work on decorating the nursery, eat healthy, choose a name, exercise, and do all "right things" to prepare for that joyful moment. 

And then sometimes it all stops, in a few moments of terrible events, the child you lovingly anticipated is gone.  Sadly, every year, many women experience the loss of a pregnancy or an infant.  When joy turns to sadness, it is important to remember that you are not alone.  

Losing that little life was a devastating event, but we were fortunate to have support and encouragement to see us through. Someone told us it was ok to grieve and seek help.  We didn't know we needed that push, but we are very grateful for it.

We don't often talk about grief.  No one wants to talk about being sad or how much we hurt. We are taught to be strong and move forward. But what happens when you can't move forward and you don't know what to do? 

Finding bereavement support and help coping with grief is essential for a healthy emotional recovery.    Faith-based groups, non-profit organizations and online forums are ready and available to provide help and support. The online magazine Still Standing is available 24 hours a day and provides online support for those experiencing grief over the loss of a pregnancy, a child or infertility.

The grief of losing a pregnancy or an infant child is not reserved for the mother alone.  Emotional support is available for parents, grandparents and siblings.  Grief affects the whole family and it is important to keep that in mind. 

If you seek a personal and more spiritual healing journey, faith based support groups may be available in your area. In the Austin / Central Texas area, The Christi Center provides grief counseling services and support groups for the different stages of grieving.  Visit their website for up to date information on support groups and sessions available to the public.