Social-Emotional Health

Have you ever had your child’s pediatrician or even teacher ask you, “How is your child’s social -emotional health?” Or they ask, “Please fill out this survey” (with many questions about smiling, sharing, playing, feelings….) and you wonder “Is this really necessary?”

Yes, mom and dad, it is necessary!

So what is a child’s “social and emotional health”?

The best way to summarize it is, “Does my child have a happy heart?” Social refers to a child’s ability to build relationships through socializing. Examples are playing, sharing, and talking. Can little David play well with others and not isolate himself? Emotional refers to a child’s ability to express emotions and self-regulate. Can little Tina express when she is happy or sad? Social emotional health is part of a child’s development.

Why is this so important?

It is sometimes overlooked because it is not as measurable as our physical health. Social-emotional comes from the inside and may not be easily recognized. It is important to identify if your child’s social-emotional health is at risk and seek help. Having a child whose social-emotional health is at risk and not treated can cause problems at school or at home and throughout adulthood.

So, what can you do?

1. Don’t wait. If you feel your child is at risk or you think something is wrong talk to your    pediatrician. Ask for the Ages and Stages Social Emotional Survey (ASQ-SE). If you still feel something is wrong, get a second opinion. If your child is between the ages 0-3, call Early Childhood Intervention (ECI). They can do an evaluation and help with resources.
2. Play! Through playing you can help your child express social-emotional behaviors. “Wow, David, I like that you are sharing your toys.” “Tina, I think the teddy bear is sad and it’s okay to be sad sometimes.” Spend time with your child and talk to them during play. Do not judge their play or ask too many questions.
3. Model Behavior. Most of the time children imitate us and learn through our behavior. If they see their parent(s) happy, it is more likely children will follow that behavior. If they see us arguing, negative, or tired, they can feed off that energy. If you need a minute to cool down, ask someone to watch the children.

Children are our future and we should spend as much time as possible with them. They grow up fast, and before you know it, they will be teenagers, so enjoy your time with them.

The Mental and Behavioral Health section offers valuable information and resources.