Self-Care for Moms

I adore my family, and one of my love languages is serving. As a mom, putting others first seems almost innate. Our selflessness is our superpower. It’s a beautiful thing, but just like anything else, overdoing it can become unhealthy. When we start neglecting ourselves, it can cause our mental health to suffer. 

Below I have listed a few ways I learned to practice self-care — some things I’ve put into practice to keep me sane. 

• I’ve learned to say “No!” You don’t have to explain everything to everybody. It’s OK to unplug without explanation. 
• I know this isn’t for everyone, but I try to maintain my beauty routine. Lately, mine has been as simple as applying my skincare regime followed by a luxurious face cream before bed. The important thing is to make it about you and to make it a point to schedule some “me time.”
• Find a hobby. I’ve discovered that I really enjoy freewriting. I also forgot how much I loved the outdoors and nature. Explore your interests and get back to old hobbies. 
• This one is important: Take care of your physical and spiritual health. Exercise, meditate, create healthy eating habits. This has been a game-changer for me! My spiritual well-being is crucial. I’m an early bird. I wake up before anyone else and start my day by reading my Bible - even if it’s just a scripture – alongside a cup of super-hot coffee. 

I also move my body, walk, or find other ways to increase movement. Remember, “If you don’t use it, you’ll lose it.”

• It takes a village! Find your tribe and don’t be afraid to tap into the kindness of your “village.” This is the area that I have struggled with the most. I don’t like to ask for help. But what I have found is that people want to help! 
• Finally, it’s OK to seek professional help if that’s where you’re at. Caregiver burnout is a real thing! You need to be as healthy as possible for yourself and your family. Mental health is as important as physical health. 

At the end of the day, the key is to remember who you are. What is important to you? What do you enjoy? What motivates you? Get rid of the mom's guilt and give yourself more credit for doing the best you can. Remember, “If mama ain’t happy, no one’s happy!”  

Self-Care is one of the most important things you can do for yourself and your family.