We all get into our own schedules. And we are all way too busy every day. Let’s be honest, who doesn’t sink into their bed at the end of the day wishing the day had a few more hours? We all over extend. It’s human. When we must balance all the additional therapies, doctor appointments, etc. that come with a child who has a disability, we can really get swamped.
Often while we sit in waiting rooms, we use that time to check email, read the news, play games, or get lost on our phones in one way or another. When you peek up from your screen, you may notice that you see the same faces sitting across from you each week.
The other mom, dad, nurse, etc. may be lost on their screen as well. I’m going to let you in a little secret. These faces may be the faces of some of the greatest friends you will ever meet. They may be a great resource you will come to lean on for some pretty big stuff.
Say hello. It’s not hard, just say the words. Introduce yourself and let them know that you noticed you see each other often. Your kids may have totally different needs, and they may be getting very different services, but you are both there frequently because you have a child with medical needs. This is huge!
You and this other parent may never do more than just chat in the waiting room, but you may become close friends. The first time I met another mom who had a child like my own was in a waiting room. She and I both stared at each other until finally one of us said, “hello.” We’re still friends and help each other with resources, emotional support, and so much more.
Take a break from your screen and look up. You will not be best friends with everyone you say hello to, but you will never regret connecting with another parent sharing this journey.
I was surprised how parenting a kid with intensive needs affected my relationship with my older children and my extended family.
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