Reading and Math Versus Functional Abilities

My main goal for most of Jac’s school years was for him to be able to write his first and last name. He got his first name by the time he was in the seventh grade and started working on his last name. Unfortunately, he still writes “U” upside down. 

I can recall meeting after meeting through the Individualized Education Program (IEP) that focused on reading and math. I just wanted Jac to write his name, learn alphabet awareness and do simple math. I wanted him to recognize his address and read simple sentences. I pushed and pushed, and for a time, Jac could read short sentences and prekindergarten books. I was delighted even though it took a lot of work. 

The problem was that I was the only one who reinforced Jac’s achievements. The school system seemed to understand that reading and math would be increasingly difficult for him, and shifted his education goals toward functional skills. Looking back, I know I dug my heels in a little as I wanted to keep some reading and math goals in place. In hindsight, I’m glad they started introducing functional goals.

I think it’s so tricky. No parent wants to admit that their child has difficulty with reading or writing. At age 22, Jac can still write his first name but he can’t write his last name. He’s been out of practice and no one really followed up on it, including his own parents. When Jac reached high school, I finally got the big picture. 

Jac needed to learn life skills to do some things for himself. I am grateful to the teachers who worked with him and educated me on the importance of these skills. 

Now that Jac is out of school, I am happy to say he can complete some chores that I never thought he would be able to do. Not only does he help me, but it gives him a sense of belonging and success. 

We have worked incredibly hard with his Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapists to come up with a chore list. We created a list that uses icons and a system that works for Jackson so he can be successful. He can now fold laundry and load and unload a dishwasher. He can feed the pets, take out the trash and sweep the porch. Way to go Jac!

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