I always knew my daughter, Casey, was amazing. She was the strongest and kindest soul I have ever been lucky enough to know. Everyone we met was always moved by her in some way. As a mother, we think these things but often remind ourselves that we are biased and may see our children differently than others.
After Casey passed away, I started working with many of the providers who used to care for her. As their peer, I see them from a different perspective now, not primarily as the professionals they once were to me. I see how my daughter impacted them. And it fills my heart every day.
Some still have photos sent over the years for different holidays hanging in their offices. Some will randomly stop by my desk to share a memory of Casey. Or to let me know that they were thinking of her that day.
I work with medically complex children and their families. One part of my job is to talk with families before a very specific surgery. I make sure they understand the impacts that come with the surgery, good and bad. The team that I do these talks with did not know my daughter. But her ripples have still reached them even after she has left this world.
The stories they have heard from me and others about Casey have helped them to meet these families where they are. Casey’s ripples have helped so many people to slow down, appreciate the little things, and to be kind and understanding.
When you lose a child, it hurts to think that people may forget her. I am reminded every day that Casey will never be forgotten. Her ripples are still going and touching new people all the time.
Take a minute to think of the people in your child’s life. Those they’ve come in contact with, as well as people they’ve impacted indirectly, are growing and learning from your child. Their ripples are reaching more people than you will ever imagine.
Read the many moving and informative stories Marty has shared about her daughter Casey.
Listening and learning from adults with disabilities helped me learn so much about my son and his future.