Sharing a Loss

Being a mother to a child with multiple disabilities, I have met many other mothers facing the same trials and tribulations—and victories. I am blessed. Four of them are my closest friends. Closer than family at times. Only they know the true struggles we encounter 24/7.

Over the past 12 years, our group has witnessed many changes: divorces, breast cancer, the loss of a child, job loss, marriage, death of a spouse. You name it, the four of us have gone through it. Together.

This past week, we had more devastating news. One of our friend's' daughter passed away unexpectedly in her sleep. As soon as I got the news, all I could think of was that I needed to get to her immediately. I cancelled my work for the day and was on the next flight.

I will never forget those two days of being there for my best friend. She needed a fellow mom to reassure her that she was the very best mother that there ever could be to her special angel. She needed to know it was OK to have a few laughs through the tears. Know she would not be alone.

My hug that night was a very long embrace. It was from many of us who pray we never have to see that day when our child leaves this earth before us.

My weary friend told me what she promised her new angel now in heaven.

She promised she would find the joy that her sweet daughter exuded daily through her smile and love for life.

That is one of the few moments I saw this strong woman cry. Those tears broke my heart.

Sweet Ashley, you are free. To Nicole, I love you, dear friend.

Connecting with other parents is important for you and your child. If you or someone you know has lost a child, here is information and a parent article that may be helpful.